I’m a Christian, but the amount of hatred, disgust, bigotry, ignorance and mockery I have watched other Christians throw at gay people infuriates me to no end. To give all of you a fair warning this piece is going to be straight to the point and harsh. I’ve been putting off writing this for about half a year now, but because of recent events, now has never been a better time for Christians to hear this message.
Love the LGBT+ community. That’s it. Simple as that. “Why?” Because Jesus says to.
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34)
You can’t only apply this verse when your next door neighbor Suzie steals your coupons off of your front steps. No picking and choosing. That verse applies to gay people, Muslims, drug addicts, homeless people and everyone in between. You’ve probably heard that verse 37 times but to be completely honest, you’re failing miserably. You can talk the talk and say “I love everyone because Jesus loves me!”, but when was the last time you’ve even talked to a gay person? That’s what I thought.
The reason why Christians have such a hatred/gross feeling towards gay people is because homosexuality is the only sin that’s public.
That’s the underlying issue that no one talks about. Gay people are open and proud of it. Unlike your private sin. Can you imagine if you were just as repulsed by your gambling addiction? Or your lying problem? Or your stealing habits? Let’s stop pointing fingers. All sins are equal in that they separate us from God.
“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:5)
For the Christians who say God hates gay people – Sorry, but he doesn’t. I can’t imagine God holding up a sign that says “I HATE FAGS.” We’re not here to hate people. We’re supposed to love them and show them God’s love.
“But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
As Christians, we actually need to act on loving one another. Here are 4 pieces of advice for doing so.
1) Don’t make fun of anyone in the LGBT+ community
Stop calling people transvestites, faggots, dykes, stupid, or anything remotely offensive. Stop making them the butt of your jokes. Don’t make ugly faces or laugh when someone brings up Caitlyn Jenner. Don’t make LGBT+ people feel uncomfortable around you. Stop saying “That’s gay!” I’ve heard stories of pastors actually making fun of gay/trans people in church. How are we supposed to bring the LGBT+ community to church and to Christ when the head of the congregation is literally making fun of gay people during services? Would Jesus do that? I don’t think so. The LGBT+ community is composed of people just like you, so treat them like it.
2) Talk to them
As I mentioned before, when was the last time you actually talked to a gay person? Or a trans woman? Or someone who identifies as gender fluid? Odds are you haven’t recently. Now, there’s only two ways this can go. If you say you’re “uncomfortable” with talking to a gay person, that’s a pretty sad excuse. You have the gift of everlasting life and you don’t want to share it with someone else? Wow. But if you do want to talk to someone, this is your sign to do so. If you don’t know anyone who identifies as a gay or trans person, just go online! Millions of people are waiting to hear the gospel.
3) Speak with love and in private
If you want to have a nice conversation with someone and share your beliefs, or confront someone about their sin, do it with love and in private. Online and in real life. I’ve seen Christians try to shove their beliefs down people’s throat right on my timeline. “You’re going to hell if you don’t get saved!” “All gay people are going to hell!!!” Not exactly Jesus-like. When Jesus confronted the Samaritan woman at the well, he did it lovingly and in private. He didn’t yell at her in the middle of Samaria while everyone was watching. Instead, he sat with her in a private place, had a well mannered conversation, confronted her about her sin and offered her salvation. Nicely. (You can read John 4 for the whole story).
Again, I’ve seen tons of confrontation online, especially on Facebook when it comes to Christians and gay people. A Christian woman shares a questionable article about Target bathrooms and everyone goes insane in the comments. Both communities lose their minds and want to kill each other in a matter of five minutes. Christians, if you know something in that article is super offensive, don’t share it. I’ve read tons of articles written by “Christians” that have been downright offensive. “But I’m standing up for what I believe in!!!!” You can still stand up for what you believe in, but if you know something will directly offend your gay friends for a fact, you don’t need to share it. It’s probably not even necessary. If you show Christ’s love through your life, people will know where you stand already. If you want, you can even write up your own post and state your beliefs there. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s in love.
4) Be a friend
Pretty self explanatory.
“Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.” Romans 15:7
Personal note: I sat in my chair for two hours trying to compile my thoughts while trying to sound as put together as possible for this article. But I remembered that I’m not perfect or put together, and that this article is merely skimming the surface of the way we should treat each other. I really hope you take these words to heart and try to apply them to your life. We all sin. Please don’t put yourself in a “holier than thou” mentality just because you’re not gay or a lesbian or transgender. Homosexuality is a very complicated thing that thousands of people are and always have suffered for. Don’t make it harder for the LGBT+ community. We’re here to help, not to destroy.
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